Long distance relationships can sometimes feel challenging, especially when the conversation starts to dwindle and you don’t know what to talk about anymore. But don’t worry, it’s completely normal! We’re all human, and we can’t be chatting machines all the time.
To help you out, here are some fresh and exciting questions to ask your long distance boyfriend that will spark new conversations and keep the relationship alive. Additionally, we’ll explore a few topic ideas to inspire you when you feel like the conversation is coming to an end.
Keeping the Conversation Flowing
As the queen of random and silly questions, my boyfriend and I never run out of things to talk about. When we’re not discussing our day or sharing memes and videos, we dive into current events and pop culture. I often tease him about peculiar aspects of American culture, just to keep things interesting.
However, we also make a point to delve deeper and discuss our true feelings. Whether we’re struggling with something specific or just need to vent, having meaningful conversations helps us understand each other better.
But let’s not forget that it doesn’t always have to be serious. Funny questions can reveal a lot about a person’s personality. These questions can help you discover new aspects of your long distance boyfriend while sharing a laugh together.
Questions to Deepen Your Connection
- If you could learn more about anything, what would it be?
- What do you think is the greatest strength of our relationship?
- Are you satisfied with the level of emotional intimacy we currently have?
It’s important to regularly assess emotional intimacy in a long distance relationship as it requires extra effort to nurture that aspect. If it’s lacking, it’s crucial to discuss how you can both work towards strengthening it.
- What’s the best name you can think of for a pet? Let’s envision our lives together!
- What are the top five things on your bucket list?
- If you had to sacrifice five innocent lives to save mine, what would you do?
Now, I know this might sound dramatic, but contemplating extreme situations can be thought-provoking and lead to intriguing discussions.
- What is your favorite family tradition? How do you envision our life together?
- Would you rather have unlimited savory food or unlimited sweets for the rest of your life?
- When the day comes to close the distance, how would you like to celebrate?
- What are some things you’d like to do the next time we’re together?
Planning future trips together can be incredibly fun and alleviate the burden of distance. By making plans, you’ll have something to look forward to and reduce anxiety.
- Would you rather be the best player on a terrible team or the worst player on an excellent team?
- If you had three wishes right now, what would you wish for?
- Are there any aspects of yourself that you would like to change?
Asking about personal struggles and insecurities can allow you to support your partner better, even if they don’t explicitly ask for help.
- You stumble upon a book that details your entire life up until this point. Knowing the events that lie ahead, would you turn the page?
- Do you think we’ve grown as a couple since we started our long distance relationship?
This question encourages open communication and ensures that you’re both heading in the right direction. It’s vital to seek your partner’s opinion, even if everything seems fine from your perspective. Communication is key!
- Do your family members support our relationship?
- What annoys you the most about me?
- Would you rather give up your phone for 30 days or desserts for life?
- What do you think is our greatest weakness as a couple?
Assessing the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship allows you to identify areas for improvement and start fresh, just like an end-of-year reflection.
- Do you feel emotionally supported?
- If we were living in the 18th century, with communication limited to letters once a month, would you still want to be in a long distance relationship?
- Describe your dream vacation.
Exploring each other’s dreams and aspirations can help you plan for the future and make them a reality.
- Do you feel loved?
- Besides the distance, what do you dislike most about our long distance relationship?
- How would you handle a disagreement with one of my family members or friends?
This question allows you both to assess your conflict resolution skills and ensure that you’re on the same page.
- What did you misunderstand as a child that you only realized later was wrong?
- If you had one week left to live, what would you do?
- What’s the silliest way you’ve ever gotten injured?
- Would you go to jail for something I did if it meant I could continue living my life?
This question presents an interesting dilemma and raises the question of acceptance in a relationship.
- When did you feel the most loved in our relationship?
- If you suspected our neighbors were abusing their child, would you mind your own business or call the authorities?
- What do you consider the most useless product of today?
- Do you see yourself as materialistic?
Understanding each other’s values and beliefs is crucial for a successful relationship.
- What was something you wanted to do as a child but never got the chance to?
- What were your thoughts during the first months of our long distance relationship?
Questions like this allow you to understand each other’s experiences and perspectives during the initial stages of your relationship.
- If someone insults me, would you let me handle it or jump in to defend me?
- If you could change the ending to any movie, which one would it be?
- What are some things you’d like us to do together?
Creating a couple’s bucket list can keep the excitement alive and give you both something to look forward to.
- Who or where would you haunt if you were a ghost?
- Do you think we communicate effectively? If not, how can we improve?
- Do you ever feel that being in a long distance relationship holds you back?
It’s essential to acknowledge the difficulties of distance and have open discussions about your partner’s feelings and any limitations they may perceive.
- Do you believe it’s possible to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex? Would it bother you if my best friend was a guy?
Boundary-setting and trust-building are significant factors in long distance relationships. Discussing these matters will help alleviate any concerns.
- What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
- Do you ever rehearse phone calls beforehand?
- Do you ever feel jealous? Can you give examples of situations that spark jealousy?
Jealousy can be a challenging aspect of long distance relationships. Discussing it openly allows you to understand each other’s triggers and work through it together.
- What’s something you want to do in the next year that you’ve never done before?
- If you could live in any era, which would it be, and why?
- Describe me in three words.
This question allows your partner to express their perception of you and can deepen your understanding of each other.
- Do you think distance has helped us grow individually?
- You’re offered a pill that will make you 50% more intelligent but permanently removes all your hair, including your eyebrows. Would you take it?
Sometimes we run out of ideas when talking to our loved ones, but remember, honesty and open communication are key. Share your thoughts and feelings, and don’t hesitate to ask for support when needed.
Remember, you’re not alone in navigating the challenges of a long distance relationship. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out through my contact form or DM me on Instagram.